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  • Family and Congregational Systems Thanksgiving Prayer
    Listen/Watch Here.  We are family. We are church. We are community. We are co-workers. We are country. We belong. But it is I who gives thanks. For the times when I have Read more
  • Daily Life Brainstorming
    Stressful Situations: Productive Responses How do you respond when something happens at home, at work or in your congregations that you didn’t predict and don’t like? The other day I was in Read more
  • Affirmation
    “Thank you. I really appreciated that." These words light up the soul of any clergyperson or lay leader of a church, synagogue, temple or other congregation. When we hear good things Read more
  • Emotion as Outcome
    Setting and achieving goals is crucial to the life of any religious organization. We commit to projects, renovate buildings, hire staff, call clergy, serve people in need, increase membership, etc.  “Veins Read more
  • Speaking Your Mind to Manage Group Anxiety
    As a young priest Fr. Felipe often refrained from sharing his views with his parish, but one particular situation bothered him so much that he began to get headaches, lose Read more
  • Hearing Others: What Happens When You Listen Deeply
    Leaders often learn tools and techniques for effective listening. The most important one though is not usually taught. This tool addresses how listening affects us emotionally. Listening is risky business. That’s Read more
  • Achieving Personal Goals
    Do you want something in your life to change? Are you hoping for improved communication or a better relationship with your partner, children or parents? For better health? To complete Read more
  • When No One Tells
    Some families keep secrets from each other that last through generations. The same is true of churches and other congregations. In a family the unspoken subject might be sexual abuse, substance Read more
  • Look Back Long Enough to Let Go
    Why dredge up painful or even traumatic memories from one’s personal past or from the history of one’s church or other religious organization? Isn’t it best to focus on the Read more
  • When Saying “No” is Saying “Yes”
    lergy Read Here (Lay leaders skip to Section A:) It’s the night before worship. You have a sermon to finish. You are hoping to head off a potential conflict between staff Read more
  • The Do’s and Don’t of Dealing with an Anxious Leader
    Anxiety can form a tangled web of intense feelings and reactive behaviors in religious organizations where people often come seeking peace and refuge from the troubles of the world. Anxious reactions Read more
  • Managing Your Own Anxiety for Effective Leadership
    Managing personal anxiety is critical to effective leadership. Anxiety affects us physically, emotionally and spiritually. It affects the way we think and act. A holistic approach, incorporating techniques and strategies for Read more
  • The Six Steps of Congregational Counseling Using the Congogram
    Just as individuals, couples and families can sometimes benefit from therapy, congregations can sometimes benefit as well. I have developed a six-step process for counseling congregations that uses techniques from Read more
  • Mindfulness in the Midst of Crisis
    Some people are naturally good at keeping calm in the midst of a crisis or during high intensity situations. Others freeze, flea or react in negative ways that intensify the Read more
  • Mine, Yours, Ours: What do we need, expect and receive from our religious communities?
    Everyone who belongs to a religious community has expectations of that organization whether is a church, synagogue, mosque, temple or meeting. We belong for a reason and we come seeking Read more
  • Focusing on the Whole: How to Set Attainable Goals Through Reflection, Speaking and Listening
    How Congregations Can Set Attainable Goals, Part 2 Sometimes it can be tough to bring a group together in support of common goals. It is especially difficult when a church, synagogue, Read more

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