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  • When One Plus One Equals Three
    In scientific math “one” always means a single item, whether it’s an apple, a dog, a tree or a unit of measure like inches or teaspoons. The shortest distance between the Read more
  • Through the Generations
    In what ways are you like your parents and grandparents? I have the short stature of my father’s mother, facial features like my mother, eye color like my father. I also Read more
  • It’s All Your Fault
    Sometimes it is obvious who the problem person is in a family or a congregation. Everything would be just fine if we could just fix the troubled child in the Read more
  • Congogram Counseling: Examine, Identify, Create
    With one click you can spend 45 minutes with the Congogram’s developer, the Rev. Dr. Lynn Acquafondata, in this recorded webinar. She introduces this innovative visual mapping tool and the Read more
  • Repetition of the Good and the Bad
    Have you ever been in a situation that felt uncomfortably familiar? Different people, different setting, different point in your life, but somehow eerily similar. The emotions, such as a sense of Read more
  • Go Away Or I’ll Go Away
    Have you ever walked away rather than get in an argument? Have you ever given someone the silent treatment? Have you ever stayed out extra late to avoid interacting with Read more
  • Being Me and Us
    How can I be me when I’m with you? How can I accept the differences between us while remaining in relationship? These questions are the keys to healthy relationship in Read more
  • Dream, Prepare, Wait, Achieve
    When I set a goal I focus on the end product. I can envision myself, my family, or a group I belong to achieving the hoped fordream. Sometimes the picture Read more
  • Roots of Conflict
    The roots of conflict are often far deeper than the immediate situation indicates in families, as well as in church, synagogues, temples and other religious organization. This is both scary, Read more
  • Make and Break and Celebrate New Year’s Resolutions
    Many of us make and break resolutions annually. Even so, there is value in the process. Each year at this time, individuals, families, organizations and the media take time to look Read more
  • Congogram Outcomes
    Who benefits from the Congogram Counseling Process? The Congogram Process is for congregations of any faith or denomination. It was tested on congregations from three different traditions. Though the process can be Read more
  • Factions and Your Comfort Zone
    Feeling safe and working through emotions with people you trust can be good. But when does a close friendship or a supportive group of like-minded people turn into a faction Read more
  • Family and Congregational Systems Thanksgiving Prayer
    Listen/Watch Here.  We are family. We are church. We are community. We are co-workers. We are country. We belong. But it is I who gives thanks. For the times when I have Read more
  • Daily Life Brainstorming
    Stressful Situations: Productive Responses How do you respond when something happens at home, at work or in your congregations that you didn’t predict and don’t like? The other day I was in Read more
  • Affirmation
    “Thank you. I really appreciated that." These words light up the soul of any clergyperson or lay leader of a church, synagogue, temple or other congregation. When we hear good things Read more
  • Emotion as Outcome
    Setting and achieving goals is crucial to the life of any religious organization. We commit to projects, renovate buildings, hire staff, call clergy, serve people in need, increase membership, etc.  “Veins Read more

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