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  • Eleven Tools of a Grounding Leader (Non-anxious presence)
    How can you lead a congregation without feeling anxiety? You can’t. No one lives life or leads anything without some anxiety.  However, we can all learn to manage and direct our Read more
  • The Flow of Anxiety
    A major budget deficit can cause anxiety in any congregation. Diagramming the flow of anxiety can help leaders understand and manage that anxiety.One church I worked with faced a $40,000 Read more
  • Relationship Geometry
    Drawing mathematical pictures can help to figure out challenging relationship issues. One of the basic units of human interaction is the relationship triangle as discussed in “Relationship Triangles” and “When One Read more
  • Figuring it Out with Lists and Charts
    When the mathematics of human interactions don’t add up, write it down to figure it out. Most of us wouldn’t think of doing math without writing down numbers and figures or making a Read more
  • When One Plus One Equals Three
    In scientific math “one” always means a single item, whether it’s an apple, a dog, a tree or a unit of measure like inches or teaspoons. The shortest distance between the Read more
  • Through the Generations
    In what ways are you like your parents and grandparents? I have the short stature of my father’s mother, facial features like my mother, eye color like my father. I also Read more
  • It’s All Your Fault
    Sometimes it is obvious who the problem person is in a family or a congregation. Everything would be just fine if we could just fix the troubled child in the Read more
  • Congogram Counseling: Examine, Identify, Create
    With one click you can spend 45 minutes with the Congogram’s developer, the Rev. Dr. Lynn Acquafondata, in this recorded webinar. She introduces this innovative visual mapping tool and the Read more
  • Repetition of the Good and the Bad
    Have you ever been in a situation that felt uncomfortably familiar? Different people, different setting, different point in your life, but somehow eerily similar. The emotions, such as a sense of Read more
  • Go Away Or I’ll Go Away
    Have you ever walked away rather than get in an argument? Have you ever given someone the silent treatment? Have you ever stayed out extra late to avoid interacting with Read more
  • Being Me and Us
    How can I be me when I’m with you? How can I accept the differences between us while remaining in relationship? These questions are the keys to healthy relationship in Read more
  • Dream, Prepare, Wait, Achieve
    When I set a goal I focus on the end product. I can envision myself, my family, or a group I belong to achieving the hoped fordream. Sometimes the picture Read more
  • Roots of Conflict
    The roots of conflict are often far deeper than the immediate situation indicates in families, as well as in church, synagogues, temples and other religious organization. This is both scary, Read more
  • Make and Break and Celebrate New Year’s Resolutions
    Many of us make and break resolutions annually. Even so, there is value in the process. Each year at this time, individuals, families, organizations and the media take time to look Read more
  • Congogram Outcomes
    Who benefits from the Congogram Counseling Process? The Congogram Process is for congregations of any faith or denomination. It was tested on congregations from three different traditions. Though the process can be Read more
  • Factions and Your Comfort Zone
    Feeling safe and working through emotions with people you trust can be good. But when does a close friendship or a supportive group of like-minded people turn into a faction Read more

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