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  • Like an Oak: Clergy and Caregiver Boundaries
    Be like an oak tree when reaching out to help people in need. Have strong roots, a solid and clearly defined trunk, and branches that reach out but don’t get Read more
  • Be a Grounding Presence Not a Non-Anxious One
    It’s better to be a grounding presence than a non-anxious presence. For decades, systems sages have taught the worthy goal of facing the stresses and uncertainties of family, congregational and organizational Read more
  • Love + Honesty + Self-Reflection = Good Leadership
    This straightforward equation fosters good leadership: Love, plus honesty, plus self-reflection. Straightforward doesn’t mean easy. Making use of the equation in the midst of leadership challenges can require hard work Read more
  • How to Stop Stressing Out About Your Own Anxiety
    A simmering conflict surfaces in a dynamic organization I recently joined. I thought everything was running smoothly and now I hear about tension, factions, blaming, secrets. I feel my gut Read more
  • Tools for Authentic Personal Change in Relationship
    Every time I walk into an appointment with a counseling client I know that I may be changed in some way by the encounter. Usually the changes are subtle, but Read more
  • Growing Light in the World from the Inside Out
    Hanukkah candles, Advent candles, multi-colored Christmas lights, Kwanzaa lights, Yule fires and --the Inner Flashlight. From a systemic perspective, holidays are an opportune time to add to the religious and Read more
  • Going Home for the Holidays With Intention
    Holidays draw people home, sometimes physically, sometimes just in spirit or memory. From a systems perspective, home is a rich place for initiating substantive personal growth and development. In addition to Read more
  • Creating a Non-Anxious Disaster in Five Steps
    None of us sets out to fail when we start projects, create programs and engage in human relationships, but we all do mess up from time to time. That’s why Read more
  • What is Ministry?
    Written for the ordination the Reverend Michelle Yates George 11/1/15 It does not take ordination to make you a minister. You are already in so many ways a minister. And yet there Read more
  • The Systems Paradox
    A systems perspective emphasizes both interconnections and communal ownership, as well as individual responsibility in organizations and families. Individuals do not act, interact and respond in isolation, but as part of Read more
  • When You Become Stuck, Play!
    Have you ever been stuck in life? Maybe you kept repeating the same conflictual patterns with a partner or family member. Or you faced a complex situation and could see Read more
  • An Over-Functioner’s Guide: Getting Others to Work
    What if you are the person in your organization who takes on more responsibility for getting things done than anyone else? What if you are tired? Here are strategies to Read more
  • Get Rid of the Disruptive Member? Nine Techniques to Address the Issue.
    Many congregations face the challenge of a disruptive member. Here are some good guidelines to follow in deciding how to respond, keeping in mind that not every situation is equal.  A Read more
  • Playing With the Roles of Leadership
    In one day you may see me in multiple outfits including a blouse and dress pants, a tank top and shorts, a skirt and jacket, a robe and stole, or Read more
  • The Forces Behind An Organizational Storm
    An organization receives a large inheritance or a grant, but instead of celebration, leadership tensions emerge. The organization could be a congregation, a business, a civic group, a social organization Read more
  • Using Self-Reflection to Change Systems
    Systems are created over time by groups of people. However, they can be changed here and now by you. What a paradox! Systems don’t change unless individual people change. The only Read more

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