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  • An Over-Functioner’s Guide: Getting Others to Work
    What if you are the person in your organization who takes on more responsibility for getting things done than anyone else? What if you are tired? Here are strategies to Read more
  • Get Rid of the Disruptive Member? Nine Techniques to Address the Issue.
    Many congregations face the challenge of a disruptive member. Here are some good guidelines to follow in deciding how to respond, keeping in mind that not every situation is equal.  A Read more
  • Playing With the Roles of Leadership
    In one day you may see me in multiple outfits including a blouse and dress pants, a tank top and shorts, a skirt and jacket, a robe and stole, or Read more
  • The Forces Behind An Organizational Storm
    An organization receives a large inheritance or a grant, but instead of celebration, leadership tensions emerge. The organization could be a congregation, a business, a civic group, a social organization Read more
  • Using Self-Reflection to Change Systems
    Systems are created over time by groups of people. However, they can be changed here and now by you. What a paradox! Systems don’t change unless individual people change. The only Read more
  • Spinning the Center: Seeing Multiple Truths
    Some see her turning clockwise, others counterclockwise. A secret tool makes it possible to observe her turn in both directions. That tool may allow you to see both truths in this Read more
  • Why Me?
    Sometimes we use all the most appropriate approaches to face both systemic and personal anxiety, but a deeper angst lies beneath it all. “Eddi07Textures” by Eddi Van W. courtesy of Flickr Creative Read more
  • To Feel Or Not To Feel
    The outcome of a meeting matters a lot, but people have different perspectives on how to handle the issues. One person raises his voice, another speaks even louder and soon Read more
  • Managing Anxiety Through Action
    Imagine you already have a full schedule. The secretary tells you that the board chair complained to him about your leadership approach regarding an important project you are facilitating. You Read more
  • Bringing Your Brain to the Rescue
    I was excited about the opportunity to present a class at my church. I had put a lot of time and care into preparing it, but when the time came Read more
  • Rising from the Ashes
    At their best, churches strengthen individuals, families and communities, and make the world a better place for all people. At their worst, unfortunately the opposite can happen. Too many times our Read more
  • Breathe, Move, Relax, Nourish: Using Your Body to Manage Anxiety
    Like athletes, good leaders benefit by getting their bodies ready for difficult or stressful situations. When there is a lot of change or conflict taking place in an organization, leaders can Read more
  • Eleven Tools of a Grounding Leader (Non-anxious presence)
    How can you lead a congregation without feeling anxiety? You can’t. No one lives life or leads anything without some anxiety.  However, we can all learn to manage and direct our Read more
  • The Flow of Anxiety
    A major budget deficit can cause anxiety in any congregation. Diagramming the flow of anxiety can help leaders understand and manage that anxiety.One church I worked with faced a $40,000 Read more
  • Relationship Geometry
    Drawing mathematical pictures can help to figure out challenging relationship issues. One of the basic units of human interaction is the relationship triangle as discussed in “Relationship Triangles” and “When One Read more
  • Figuring it Out with Lists and Charts
    When the mathematics of human interactions don’t add up, write it down to figure it out. Most of us wouldn’t think of doing math without writing down numbers and figures or making a Read more

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