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  • When Social Media Interferes with Spiritual Values
    The use of social media by churches and congregations can increase outreach and connection with a wide audience. However it can also lead to some spiritual missteps that damage religious Read more
  • Conflict Resolution Basics in Three Steps
    Conflict is a part of all relationships though we often think of it as disagreements or differences of opinion. Conflict doesn’t have to be divisive, but instead it can provide Read more
  • Grounding Self and Congregation In the Midst of Turmoil
    Aren’t congregations supposed to be peaceful havens amidst the turmoil of life? At their best congregations take the conflicts and struggles from the world and transform them in healing and productive Read more
  • How to Think in Systems: It’s All in the Questions
    What if, when you felt irritated or angry with someone, you stopped yourself from asking the question, “What’s wrong with them?” Instead you strove to ask this question. “What’s going Read more
  • Companion and Companioning Prayer…
    This prayer is a response prayer to go with the “Furious Prayer for the Church….” by Brian Doyle, novelist, essayist, and poet.  Furious Prayer for the Church I Love and Have Always Read more
  • Like an Oak: Clergy and Caregiver Boundaries
    Be like an oak tree when reaching out to help people in need. Have strong roots, a solid and clearly defined trunk, and branches that reach out but don’t get Read more
  • Be a Grounding Presence Not a Non-Anxious One
    It’s better to be a grounding presence than a non-anxious presence. For decades, systems sages have taught the worthy goal of facing the stresses and uncertainties of family, congregational and organizational Read more
  • Love + Honesty + Self-Reflection = Good Leadership
    This straightforward equation fosters good leadership: Love, plus honesty, plus self-reflection. Straightforward doesn’t mean easy. Making use of the equation in the midst of leadership challenges can require hard work Read more
  • How to Stop Stressing Out About Your Own Anxiety
    A simmering conflict surfaces in a dynamic organization I recently joined. I thought everything was running smoothly and now I hear about tension, factions, blaming, secrets. I feel my gut Read more
  • Tools for Authentic Personal Change in Relationship
    Every time I walk into an appointment with a counseling client I know that I may be changed in some way by the encounter. Usually the changes are subtle, but Read more
  • Growing Light in the World from the Inside Out
    Hanukkah candles, Advent candles, multi-colored Christmas lights, Kwanzaa lights, Yule fires and --the Inner Flashlight. From a systemic perspective, holidays are an opportune time to add to the religious and Read more
  • Going Home for the Holidays With Intention
    Holidays draw people home, sometimes physically, sometimes just in spirit or memory. From a systems perspective, home is a rich place for initiating substantive personal growth and development. In addition to Read more
  • Creating a Non-Anxious Disaster in Five Steps
    None of us sets out to fail when we start projects, create programs and engage in human relationships, but we all do mess up from time to time. That’s why Read more
  • What is Ministry?
    Written for the ordination the Reverend Michelle Yates George 11/1/15 It does not take ordination to make you a minister. You are already in so many ways a minister. And yet there Read more
  • The Systems Paradox
    A systems perspective emphasizes both interconnections and communal ownership, as well as individual responsibility in organizations and families. Individuals do not act, interact and respond in isolation, but as part of Read more
  • When You Become Stuck, Play!
    Have you ever been stuck in life? Maybe you kept repeating the same conflictual patterns with a partner or family member. Or you faced a complex situation and could see Read more

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